STOP WATCHING AND START LIVING

I wanna share something that I've read from Disfunkshion Magazine. 

DON'T BE FOOLED BY THE CRAFTED REALITIES OF SOCIAL MEDIA.

The fact of the matter is this: People post the highlights of their lives, not their frustrations or vulnerable moments. Everyone has ups and downs, so why are we making life a competition? Lets spend less time comparing ourselves to others. Lets stop being worried about having exciting lives, and "actually live" them. Lets find those things we love and pursue them!

Spend more time doing instead of wishing. Think about it. When your day is packed full of adventures, you never once check Instagram or Facebook. Why would you?

You know you're on the right track when you start posting more ad watching less. Post the moments that are special to you and those times and places that describe you most. Your life is an adventure and a story. Don't fill it up with memories of watching people's lives while your own rushes past you. After a long day of living life to the fullest, you won't feel sad about other people's posts. Instead, you'll enjoy looking at their adventures and maybe consider bringing them on your next journey.

"I learned the most important things in life are the ones that don't come with a price tag attached."

I learned that, as human beings, true love and companionship are the things we ultimately hope to find during our lifetime. We hope to find someone who gives us that "I want you, flaws and all" kind of love. Someone who will hopefully watch I love Lucy reruns and make pancakes with us at midnight.

But what's scary about living in today's materialistic society is many women forgo the ideas of love, and instead opt for rich men with big bank accounts. They want men who will buy them a new wardrobe, expensive dinners, and lavish trips; in a nutshell, a sugar daddy.

Typically sugar daddy-sugar baby relationships are seen as an older man and younger woman pairing, in which the man gives the woman allowances or gifts on a timely basis. This may seem one-sided, but there is a balance - similar to a transaction, the women are willing to give themselves and/or fake a love that isn't really there in exchange for something material in return. 

While the possibility of getting showered with gifts may sound ideal, this transaction-bawd relationship has an unfortunate association to "soft prostitution". Defined as "the practice or occupation of engaging in sexual activity with someone for a form of payment," prostitution, in the case of sugar relationships, could be seen as a woman giving any type of expected, forced affection in exchange for an implied repayment (a gift, a trip, etc). And while sex is not necessarily put into the equation, it definitely can be.

Though these relationships aren't exactly blatant illegal prostitution, this consensual parring based on both parties expecting transactions, giving X in order to get Y, is far form the idea of that midnight pancake-making type of love everyone deserves to have.

So why do some women settle for less than the real kind of love? Security, we assume; the comfort in knowing they are taken care of financially. But here is the self-fulfillment in that? Riding on the coattails of others never gave anyone a sense of self-worth. Women must learn to be motivated enough to achieve success and financial stability on their own - especially in case of the possibility tha she or the partner decide to have the relationship.

After all, love is more fulfilling and satisfying than many cashmere seater or filet mignon. Ladies, be independent! Don't look for someone to "support you," but rather someone to be supportive "of you" an your dreams. Love who you want to love, regardless of status or provisions - and make sure they make you feel like your love is priceless. 


Credits to the writer: Jeah Bradley